Do you... 

​●Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will

●Constantly make excuses to other people for your

  partner's behavior?
●Believe that you can help your partner change if

  only you changed something about yourself?
●Try not to do anything that would cause conflict

  or make your partner angry?
●Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is

  never happy with you?
●Always do what your partner wants you to do

  instead of what you want?
●Stay with your partner because you are afraid of

  what your partner would do if you broke up? 

If any of these situations are happening in your relationship, talk to someone you trust, call us at (575)762-0050 or (575)769-0305 or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at            1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). 

Without help, the abuse will continue. 

Am I Being Abused? 

Hartley House

Domestic Violence Shelter 

Serving families and our communities since 1979

Look over the following questions. Think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner. 

"As a child, I heard in my home doctors and ambulance men say, 'Mrs. Stewart, you must have done something to provoke him.' 'Mrs. Stewart, it takes two to make an argument.' Wrong. Wrong! My mother did nothing to provoke that - and even if she had, violence is NEVER EVER a choice that a man should make. Ever."

-Patrick Stewart

For Immediate 

Assistance Call

(575) 769-0305

​​​Does your partner...

●Embarrass or make fun of you in front of friends

  or family? Put down your accomplishments or

●Make you feel like you are unable to make

  decisions? Use intimidation or threats to gain

●Tell you that you are nothing without them?
●Treat you roughly-grab, push, punch, shove or it

  you? Threaten or abuse your pets?
●Call you several times a night or show up to make

  sure you are where you said you would be? 
●Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying

  hurtful things or abusing you?
●Blame you for how they feel or act?
●Pressure you sexually for things you aren't ready

●Make you feel like there is no way out of the

●Prevent you from doing things you want-like

  spending time with your friends or family?
●Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave

  you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a